If a potential client asks you a tonne of questions and it gets your heckles up… Instead of looking at that potential client as a pain in ya arse… You should know that they have their own needs to fill. And have had past experiences plus if they make a wrong purchase… well you guessed it, they would take it personally too. Oh here we go around the merry go round!
Let me explain.
If a potential client wants to know the in’s, the out’s, the full shebang… Including your credentials and the clincher…Why are you different? It’s not a personal slug at you! It is because that poor bugger just needs to compare, research and has a bit of ‘OCD buying syndrome’ or has to interrogate before they can sign up – because that is how they do everything!!!!
It’s got diddly squat to do with you & your abilities and whether or not you are AWESOME!
As soon we drop making it about ourselves and see that people do not actually wake up and go… “I am buying a product or service today and I am going to personally attack everyone and then decide” Interesting isn’t it?
Here are three signs that you are taking things too personally:
1. You literally take things to heart. You put up a blog and you hold your breath….!! Arggh does it sound right, did I spell check it? What if no one gets it. Then they will really think I am a fruit loop! Like your actual heart feels like its been punched.
2. A flippant comment is made in group conversation and for real…You feel a rush of adrenaline! And that everyone is staring at you because they are thinking “Who does she think she is!”
3. You believe that your current business results are a reflection of you being:
a) A loser
b) A stupid loser
c) A stupid loser who is not clever
d) A stupid loser who is too old, too fat, too ugly and even not cool enough!
You can see how this can and does spiral out of control.
So what can you do?
First, you must recognise that somewhere you carry within you a story. A story that you are not good enough… So you take other people’s opinions personally. If we start to see that it’s peoples personalities and not about ‘us’ its easier to deal with them. If you see that it means nothing about you and your skills but instead understand that all people have their own BS story going on… Then you can have that sympathetic ear with them when they ask about your services. That bold courage when you are networking and the belief you deserve abundance.
It is your time now to listen. Where are you being held back?
Let’s plant those seeds of belief instead of sowing doubt & fear. Book now for a FREE 30 minute call to find out how I can help you with your mindset problems and teach you to be a Sales Queen!
