Do I get jealous? Hell yeah!
Do I compare myself to others? For sure!
Do I wish I had more, bigger, better, smaller, larger, softer, harder….I mean where do I stop!
And that is where this blog starts.
The jealous part of me was someone who forgot about my own gifts, my own unique ways, my own heart, my own ideas. The more time I spent wishing I was someone else, the more I was pushing away my success. Once I embraced the fact that when I saw something in someone that I wanted, I just had to go out and get it…Without the judgement of not actually being them. Wow so easy… Blog over hahaha!
My clients share with me so often that they look at what others are doing and stop what they were doing. Say what??!! Because the ironic thing is, someone else would have inspired my client to start anyway and that they too now are inspiring someone and someone is looking at them and comparing and wanting to stop (anyone confused with all the someones in this story?)
YOU are that someone right now being who you are. YOU are inspiring and making some babe out there infuriatingly jealous because you are rocking the casper. Your job now is to make sure she is seen in your messaging, that she feels she can reach this sweet spot. To be at ease in her journey, because what if right now everything is how it should be. What if you were suppose to be shining the light on your dark, celebrating the wins and sometimes waking up at night in fear of “what the hell have I just done”!
It’s like marketing.
We are all actually attracting and selling. If we all could see that we are just making the pie larger for everyone and it’s not a lolly scramble where we push and shove to get a fix…We would embrace much more collaboration. (Too many would’s for the trees?)
I have had a traditional upbringing around how I was to behave, expect my life to unfold, to accept that I was a certain class of person. To believe that other people had wealth, that we had to work HARD.
To have it easy meant, we were lazy, not trying hard enough and settling. I understand now it is because of how they saw their parents, how they were expected to be. Don’t get me wrong I came from a loving, warm and safe home. But my dear mother didn’t know she carried a live spark, a tall poppy, a loud mouth, a dreamer, a star. As a parent now I totally get this fierce love, this security. Because when we put ourselves out there we are vulnerable to the world.
So how we perceive others and their success is often a lie we are sharing with ourselves. A lie to keep us safe. We create this perception of the person we crave to be and see in our competition and we use it as a weapon. A weapon to validate our crazy story that came from childhood that someone else can do it better. But who is better than you? No one. You are you and I am me (honestly anyone lost yet?)
The next time you feel the green eyed monster rearing its ugly head, recognise the emotion. Go with it. Then ask yourself “Is this actually true?” The thing is girlfriend it won’t be true. Yes they may have a glitzy website, a kick butt free video series and the best face for camera but does that really mean you suck the big apple?!?! NO! Get them off the pedestal and stick to your plan. Your life, your gift, your unique way, listen to your heart (I mean it loves you!)
The Dalai Lama believes that western women are the next world leaders. He mentions nothing about green eyed monsters.
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Nat xx
